I recently found out that one of my oldest friends is pregnant with her third child and it’s a girl… just like her first two children.  She announced it on Facebook in the form of a reveal cake, and I commented on the photo:

“Oh my word! Yay [family name]! I thought for sure it was a boy. Although, I must say, being the youngest of three girls myself, this new baby will have it all Winking smile.“

But then I got to thinking about how being the youngest of three girls shaped me and what I learned about it as an adult.  Some lessons were easily tagged back to my birth order, some less obviously so.

So, for anyone embarking on a life as the parents of 3 girls, here are some lessons I learned and my take on it, in no particular order:

  1. Pick a really great name for me. By this point, you’ve already used up your number one and number two top girl names. Don’t just give me my older sister’s backup name.
  2. I may not be a natural born leader, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give me opportunities to lead. My sisters always called the shots and I was never far behind, but learning how to lead is a very valuable trait.
  3. Being alone and entertaining myself may not come naturally to me so give me opportunities to figure it out.  See also #10.
  4. Although it may be the third time you’ve done something (potty train, first day of school, first communion), don’t forget it’s still my first. 
  5. Just because my sisters are doing it (and you’re totally over what I’m currently doing) doesn’t mean I am ready. Easy example: daycare.  I went to pre-school as a 3 year old and graduated high school as a 17 (and 5 month) year old.  It was easy to hurry me along.  Hence, the corollary to Number 5:
  6. I’m probably going to be ready earlier than my sisters were.  You can’t escape the influence that older sisters have. 
  7. I’m going to want to tag along with my big sisters at pretty much every turn, even when they don’t want me to.  It’s going to cause some annoyances.  It’s ok.
  8. I’ll probably tell my sisters before I tell you when I get my period.  They’ll probably teach me how to put makeup on and shave my legs too.  It’s ok, Mom. No offense.
  9. The dynamics of 3 women will always leave someone out.  There will be tears, there will be slammed doors and whomever is besties this week may be frenemies next week.  It will all even itself out in the end.
  10. I never have to plan anything for myself so give me opportunities to learn how to.  I learned this the hard way in my 20’s when I realized that in order to have friends, I needed to make plans to see them.  That didn’t come naturally to me.  Why would it when I already had built-in friends since the day I was born?
  11. You’ve already figured a lot out but don’t forget that I need to discover it myself.  Even though sister 1 was trial and error and sister 2 was improving upon that, and now life is mayhem with three children, it’s still all brand new to me.
  12. Give me opportunities to show I am my own person and not just "so and so’s" little sister (which includes getting my own clothes, books and toys).  I don’t begrudge hand-me-down’s, especially if they were super cool, just make sure I have some stuff that feels like mine.
  13. I have the supreme benefit of learning from my sisters’ mistakes but don’t forget I need to make my own as well.  I avoided a lot of heartache (and police intervention) because I was able to see how some of my sisters’ decisions resulted in really crappy consequences. So I didn’t make those same mistakes, I made my own.
  14. It’s going to be hard on me when everyone goes off to college and I’m the only one left behind.  Youngest girls are used to having their sisters around and being an “only child” doesn’t come naturally to us.  Expect a lot of tears and lonely nights.
  15. I may always be your baby but if anything, I want to be like the big kids, not the baby.  Especially if the third daughter is the youngest of the neighborhood or of the cousins, the last thing she want to feel like is the baby of the group.
  16. But, no but really, I will always be your baby.

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Callie’s Surgery

by Chase on February 9, 2014

So, my sweet almost-13 year old puppy has cancer.  Her sweet signature Shiba curly tail had a tumor right at the base of the tail.  We had this happen once before and we had the tumor removed when we first found it in 2011, but it came back.

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We knew it could come back because of the nature of the growth, but we had gotten complacent because after so many months, nothing!  But I noticed it one night while we were getting ready to call it a night and get into bed, so I called the vet the first thing the next day.

We did what we thought was best and took her in for surgery on Jan 31. It went well, but the healing has been slow going. Because of the first surgery, she already had lost a lot of tissue when the first tumor was removed, so after the second surgery, there wasn’t enough skin to stitch.  We learned this the hard way when the stitches had cut off her blood flow meaning her tail wasn’t getting any blood and was at risk of dying.

But, we’re cautiously optimistic and the incision is healing… albeit slooowly.  It’s bandaged, but open. It’s truly hard to see your pet go through the difficulty of surgery!  Good thoughts and prayers accepted!

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Ruminations on Scarcity

by Chase January 3, 2014

I heard this fascinating news clip on Thursday about the concept of scarcity.  If you have 5 minutes, please do listen to it.  If you’re not in place where you can listen today, here is the gist: Not having enough money and not having enough time, might not seem like similar things, but psychologically, they […]

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Scenes from 2013

by Chase December 31, 2013
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My 2014 Goals

by Chase December 29, 2013

A few days premature, but never too early!  I just love this time of year – an opportunity to look forward to my next Best Year Ever!  Some say that the pursuit of self-improvement is a form of self-rejection (which I see the perspective) but I don’t agree.  I feel as though setting up aspirations […]

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2013 in review

by Chase December 23, 2013

Oh it’s that time again! December – the best month to get nostalgic about the great things you did over the last year.  For me, it’s even more so because my birthday is in December, so it’s another year older, another year better. This year was pretty good.  It didn’t carry the big-ticket events like […]

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Weekend in review

by Chase August 25, 2013

This post is going to take a bit longer to type than usual. waaamp waaaamp…  Yep I broke my finger.  But let’s circle back to the top before we get there. Saturday was my first ever CrossFit competition!  My gym did an end of summer competition between the AM and PM athletes.  I’m an AMer, […]

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Life lately

by Chase August 23, 2013

It’s been quite a while, friends! Thanks to those of you who stopped by while I was “under maintenance.” Let’s call it what it is – I took the blog down for a while for personal reasons.  But I’m here now, and looking forward to reconnecting with you! So what’s been going on lately?  (Other […]

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A day in the life: July 2013

by Chase July 11, 2013

Sometimes on different blogs that I read, I’ll see posts that chronicle one particular day in the life of the writer.  You know, just to get an idea of what keeps them busy from sun up to sun down. Bloggers share so much online, but of course there’s a lot left unsaid.  So these posts […]

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Checkin’ in.

by Chase July 5, 2013

Every time I sit down to write a post, I think, “OK, brain.  What do we want to talk about today?” and the first thing that comes to mind is a workout, fitness, healthy-living related thing.  I swear there’s a lot more to me than that, but before we get into anything more, let’s talk […]

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